MATRIMONY

Congratulations on your engagement! The Bible describes God’s plan for marriage as a grace for a happy life and sign of Christ’s faithful and fruitful love for his Bride, the Church. We at STA are excited for you to grow in this love and understanding. This is one of the most exciting (and hectic) seasons in your life. Let us help you get ready for more than just the wedding day. We will guide you through the preparation process. To get started, send an inquiry to Deacon Jerome Buhman at dcn.jerome@stamadison.org.

We've provided some resources, forms and registration links that you'll need to get started. As always, please contact us with any questions that you may have.

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THE MARRIAGE PREPARATION PROCESS

The Marriage Preparation Process is designed to help you deepen your love for one another and for the Lord Jesus. Through your preparation, you will discover your strengths, as well as areas of potential conflict, challenge, and growth.

THE PREPARATION PHASE

  1. THE INITIAL MEETING AND COMPLETION OF THE PRENUPTIAL INVESTIGATION

The couple sets up an initial meeting with Deacon Jerome at least six months in advance of the wedding. The purpose of this meeting is to explain the preparation process, to fill out the initial set of papers required by the church and to answer any questions which the bride or groom may have. *If either the bride or groom has been previously married, a date cannot be set until church documents have been completed. This could take up to 18 months.*

  1. COMPLETION OF THE FOCCUS (FACILITATE OPEN, COUPLE, COMMUNICATION, UNDERSTANDING, AND STUDY) INVENTORY WITH A FACILITATING COUPLE

You will be assigned a FOCCUS facilitating couple. You are responsible for contacting and scheduling with your assigned couple. https://www.foccusinc.com/ 

  1. PARTICIPATION IN A DIOCESAN MARRIAGE PREPARATION COURSE

There are currently three options for marriage preparation courses through the Diocesan Office of Marriage and Family. You will need to complete ONE of these options: https://www.madisondiocese.org/mp

PLANNING YOUR WEDDING CEREMONY

Meet with the Director of Worship & Liturgy at St. Thomas Aquinas to begin preparation of the Liturgy no less than two months prior to the wedding.